So, another one for the relationship scrapheap!!

Nathan Explosion · August 16, 2024

Early June, after a few days of there being something obviously off with my wife's attitude to me, I confronted her and asked her what was up - and was told that she had come to the conclusion that she no longer loved me (not far off our 20th anniversary) and saw me as a friend only now. We've had our disagreements over the years, but they always seemed to be sorted out - but seemingly they weren't, and she's been slowly bubbling away with them until now.

We had the expected arguments, she wanted me to move out, I advised I wasn't going to as can't afford to do so at this time, she's now ok with that, and we've gotten on with things...nowhere near as friendly to each other as we have been in the past though, but working on that one.

However, I've come around to the situation now (2 months later) - realistically, we've been going through the motions for a while so it was probably inevitable that we'd end up where we are eventually. Agreed that I'll stay around here until I can afford to move out (got some loans ending middle of next year, and a guaranteed decent pay bump coming after that, so will be in a better position as a result)

We'll worry about the likely divorce at a later time - we're both going to work on lessening our outgoings and debts to allow both of us to be able to live separately and comfortably. I cover the house costs (mortgage/bills and all that) while she covers other stuff (food, mainly) - used to be that I was the major income, with her quite a bit behind, but due to covid she changed career 3 years ago, and is now in a stronger earning position, so is in a healthier position for the eventual full split and whatever we decide to do there.

Erin is 16 this year, into her final year of school, and Alice is heading into her 2nd last year. While they are upset by what has happened, we're doing our best to make it easy on them - don't want to feck up their GCSEs.

Only thing that is really bothering me at the moment is that I think I'm going to have to let Alice down soon - had been planning to go up to Manc in early November for her first Metal festival but looking at cancelling that due to all this - can't really afford to do it anymore, and broaching the subject of Louise assisting with the cost of travel hasn't been easy.

So, there we are...hopefully that helps some people understand why I've had a few outbursts on here recently too

pipnasty · August 16, 2024