Advice re death of parent.

cocknose · February 26, 2018

Would appreciate any advice guys.

I didn't have the best of relationships with my Mum, it was an abusive, alcoholic situation and I got out of there by age of 12, leaving behind a half sister and half brother.

Obviously my brother especially held that against me, I have often thought I should have stayed around but at 12 when you have your own life path to consider, you make decisions.

My mum has had a terrible life, but these last 2 years relations had thawed, we had been writing and we were all set to introduce her to her 3 beautiful grandkids when we come back from Australia for a holiday in 8 weeks.

She didn't reply to this years xmas card, and so I text her a few times and no answer. I asked my father in law to knock at her place yesterday and the neighbour said she died 3 weeks ago.

Not sure how to feel, is it hypocritical to mourn a parent you didn't really love?

The worst part is that I have been on the phone to the undertaker and coroner this morning in London to find out what has happened with her, and my brother has buried her already without telling me or my sister, surely this is outrageous no matter what has gone before?

I don't know if i'm making much sense but im shaking writing this with rage and sadness, where do I stand with my brother, was he allowed to do this>?

Swan Red · February 26, 2018

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